The Language Game

In my life many things are unpredictable. I like it that way. Change keeps me off kilter and reminds me I am growing. As a result, I have had several careers and am currently in the process of building myself a new one. (More to come on that later)

Along the way I have been fortunate enough to pick up a few mentors that have literally changed my life. Like my current life coach, Debra Russell, who is really allowing me to be clear about what I want and how I can allow the “Man” I was meant to be, to take charge of my life, while still having fun.

As a side note, if you don’t have a Life Coach or Business Coach, I highly recommend you get one. Even Bill Gates has coaches and advisors. Any cost of having a coach is far offset by the amount of new revenue that will flow into your life as a result. You can check out Debra’s website here.

The Power of Language

The quality of the language you use is in direct proportion to the quality of your life. Debra says it another way. She says the words you use become the labels for your experiences.

Your subconscious mind is always listening and creating your experiences based on your belief systems. Your belief systems tell you what is possible and what is. . .not. And you are always more capable than you believe you are. The words you use most often define and create your beliefs, so if you change your words, over time, your beliefs will change too.

If you find yourself saying, “I can’t do that. . .” or “I’m not good enough. . .” or “I won’t make it. . .” around any subject, then the odds are you will prove yourself right. I won’t even get into the whole conversation around how your ego is making decisions, (not always for the better) for you based on your beliefs. We will save that conversation for another day.

For now I am just focusing on the possibility that the sources of your negative experiences are the negative words and phrases you repeat out loud most often. In general, any phrase which uses the words, "can’t", "won’t" and "don’t", are negative phrases which limit your ability to accomplish what you want.

The most common negative phrase I hear, and used to repeat, myself, is , “I can’t afford it.” If you continue to repeat that phrase in your life I can guarantee you will never have the financial wealth you desire. I suggest you replace it with, “I eventually receive everything I desire.”

You may think this is absurd, but I promise you it is not. Your subconscious mind is always listening.

So next time you hear yourself saying “I can’t do it. . .” stop and try replacing that “can’t” with a “can” and see what happens. You may just surprise yourself and realize you CAN do a lot more in your life than you ever thought possible.

The truth is, dear friend, that your real life's purpose is whatever you decide it is. Renew gratitude for what you have in your life. Take 4 seconds right now and think of one thing in your life you are grateful for. Everyday is another chance to remind yourself you are only 4 seconds to freedom! Because freedom is a state of mind. Start now!